2010 the year that was ......................

I can't believe in 28 days time me and hubby would have been married exactly a year and still every time I see him my heart still skips a beat but before any of you start throwing up in your head of course we have our ups and downs don't we all. Mostly of course down to me, i'm rather fiery, stubborn and like things done a certain way and there and then, hubby is so mellow and laid back he would be and is normally late for everything because whats the hurry in his book and yes it drives me insane but I adore every breath in his body :D.

2010 was the year !!!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't top it, I would love to have but it didn't happen. 2011 has been quite frankly the year from hell (albeit splattered with cuddles and love from hubby, kids and my friends). I sometimes feel that if you are blessed in certain areas then perhaps you suffer in other areas or if like me you're just superstitious then when you see in a new year it should be done in style like we did in 2009. Party at our house with great friends, fireworks at midnight, champagne and lots of love.

2010 was watching Mr Fox on dvd with the kids and hubby, chinese, kids mostly in their rooms, hubby asleep on the sofa and me silently fuming but not saying anything. At midnight .................... we stopped briefly so that I (and I repeat I as everyone moaned that the dvd had been turned off!!!) watched the chimes on the telly, then I went to open the back door to let out the old year (wish I hadn't) and opened the front door to let in the new year (again wish I had left that one firmly shut). Hubby protesting as to why I feel the need to do stupid things like that and can we start watching the cartoon again ........................ frustrated I go to bed alone and angry (see start of the new year). Probably wouldn't have been to bad if it also hadn't bee the first day of our married life. I was not amused. No cuddles no loving, me moaning I wish I never got married etc etc that was the start of 2011 and as we all know its been a downhill struggle all the way since.

Don't believe me .....................(and yes I know there are people in the world much worse of than myself but luckily for me and you as you're reading this blog, I can be unadulterated about myself lol)

Ok 2011.
Hubby has lost 3 jobs (yes seriously 3)

I have had 2 miscarriages (still breaks my heart and without knowing their sex named them Alexandra (lexie) and Stan) I still cry often but normally when hubby isn't around as he'd want to try again if he saw me and anyone who has gone through a miscarriage knows how hard it is and to go through 2 in the space of 4 months was heartbreaking beyond compare and sometimes you just need to STOP and think about what you have and love and enjoy every moment of the children you've been blessed with.

We have lost 2 houses (and school places and now live in a bungalow that is far too cramped for us and we left where we lived to be able to give hubbys kids space for themselves now we have a living room that resembles the artic in the morning, not really the place to let 3 kids stay so we have had to continue with our travelodge lifestyle).

Money couldn't even get you started on it .................................hubby now planning on living away from home for part of the week so we can try to make ends meet.

In fact anything that could go wrong has gone wrong, car crashes, shattered mirrors etc etc.

So this NYE I will plan a splendid event in the quietest place on earth where we'll be lucky if anyone ever comes to visit us lol!!

Might need to start thinking about what I can do to try and bring us some luck for 2012 but secretly i'm just hoping that god has given us enough butt kicking for one year and let us be for the next.

So for 2012 this is my checklist.............(obviously not all relevant to me but you might like reading them).

New Year Superstitions

People across the globe trust in certain superstitions related to New Year's Day. Underlying idea behind most of these superstitions is that events occurring on New Year's Day sets the pattern for the rest of the year. According to customs prevalent in their society, people perform auspicious acts to invite Lady Luck and ward off evil. Given here are some of the most astonishing and popular New Year Superstitions:

Wear New Clothes
People believe that one should wear new clothes on a New Year's Day. This would mean receiving more new garments during the year. Red clothing is preferred for New Year's Day since red is considered a happy colour and is sure to attract for the wearer a brighter future. 

Avoid Crying
It is said that one should avoid breaking things or crying and wailing on the first day of the year, if you don't want to continue the pattern for the entire year. 

Be Polite
People say that one should behave nicely on New Year and must refrain from using foul language. Ghost stories and conversations on death should also be avoided. 

Lucky New Year Babies
Babies born on 1st January is said to be the luckiest of all throughout their lives. 

Don't Let Money Leave the House
In several countries, people do not let money, jewelry, precious items or other invaluable things leave home on New Year Day. Hence it is said that one should not pay loans and bills or lend things to anybody. People go to the extent of not taking out garbage or even not dusting their carpets on this day to ensure that nothing goes out of home during the year. If you have to deliver presents on New Year morning, it is advised to leave them in the car since New Year Eve on December 31st. In case you must take something out from the home, let someone come with the present inside the home first. 

Letting the Old Year Out 
At midnight, all the doors of a house must be opened to let the old year escape unimpeded. 

Stack Up Cupboards and Wallets
It is believed that cupboards stocked up with food and wallets and purses full of money bring prosperity in New Year. Similarly, empty pockets or empty cupboards on New Years Eve portend a year of poverty. 

Do not Wash Dishes
In several societies washing dishes and doing laundry on New Year's day is said to lead to a death in the family during the year. Many people do not even wash hair on New Year day. 

Do Token Amount of Work
It is said that one must do token amount of work on the New Year's Day. This is said to ensure advancement in career. But starting out a serious work project is unlucky on New Year Day. 

Make Noise
People believe that Evil One and his attendants and servants hate din and loud noise. So, scare them away by being as loud in New Year celebrations as possible. Church bells are rung at midnight for the same reason. 

Don't Keep Debts
Pay your bills and loans before New Year Eve, so you don't have any debt left for New Year. 

Eat Black-Eyes Peas 
In Southern part of the United States it is said that eating of black-eyed peas on New Year's Day will attract both general good luck and money in particular to the one doing the dining. 

Kiss at Midnight 
It is believed that kissing at midnight ensures that affections and ties will continue throughout the New Year. On similar lines, it is said, to not do this would be to set the stage for a year of coldness. 

First Footing
One must never leave the home before someone comes in first. First footer in the house should be ushered in with a warm welcome and should not have flat feet, cross-eyes or eyebrows stretching out to meet in the middle. It would be even better if he came bearing certain small gifts. 

The Direction of Wind
The direction of wind during sunrise on New Year morning prophesies about the coming year. Wind from south foretells fine weather and prosperous times ahead while wind from north foretells bad weather. Wind blowing from east foretells natural calamities and wind from west foretells plenty of milk and fish for all but death of a person of great national importance. No wind means joy and prosperity throughout the year.

Dance in the Open Air 
To dance in the open air, especially round a tree, on New Year's Day ensures luck in love and prosperity and freedom from ill health during the coming twelve months. 

Find Future Groom
On New Year's Day if, on rising, a girl should look out of her bedroom window and see a man passing by, she may reckon to be married before the year is finished. 

Drain the Bottle
You could ensure yourself good fortune by draining the last dregs from a bottle of drink on New Years! 


They say that was doesn't break you can only make you stronger and  think that above all of these obstacles we have shown that we are still just as madly in love with each other, we are stronger and we can only grow stronger.

TTFN!!!!